A Message From My Heart to Widows

Yes, your heart is broken and it may feel like it will never be whole again.

PROVERBS 13:12

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.

I know about loosing hope and suffering from a broken or sick heart. Sickness and disease will take you out, if you let it. So, you must fight to live! For God is your hope (Psalms 62:5).

Even though I'm talking to widows, this message could be for anyone that has suffered a loss. A child, a parent, a job, your home, your health, your investments, finances, a relationship, your purpose, etc.

"Jesus is the Healer of a broken heart!" - Luke4:18

"A sound heart is life and health to the body, envy is rottenness to the bones." - Proverbs 14: 30

Don't let the lost make you a victim for the rest of your life. Life has changed, and you will have to make adjustments as you walk out the process of grief. But you can't let your husband or wife's transition to heaven make you think that God wants your life to end. You are still here and God still has purpose for your life! You must begin to understand that you are valuable to God and he loves you!

God promises to never leave us or forsake us. To never leave us helpless or fail us. I understand very well, when you "feel" forsaken you accept the idea that you are alone. The reality is, that despite how you feel, you are not alone. God is with you, and in those moments you cannot trust or rely on your emotions, but the promises of God.

It is through his word, that he promises us, that leaving is something He will never do. Forsaking us is not God's nature towards us. You might be saying, "Well, why did my spouse die? Why didn't God stop it?" God has given each of us choices to choose to make our own decisions. He never over powers our own will, but He is always there to work things together for the good of those who love Him!

The Bible says in Jeremiah 29:11 that God has plans of good and not evil for you. He has an expectant end for you! They are His plans, not ours. We may have many plans, but it's the Lord's plans that will prevail. 

During the grieving period, you will go through many emotions. Making major decision out of your emotion will only appear unstable. You may ride the waves of your emotions and experience anger, fear, guilt, regret, loneliness, and doubt. But you can not stay in those emotions. You have have to submit your emotions to the Holy Spirit and lean on Him and God's word.

I realized I couldn't trust myself to make good and sound decisions during that time in my life. The Holy Spirit is our comforter, and He is always willing to help us walk through any and everything we encounter. Also, during this period, it is good to have people around you that love you! As a matter of fact, it is a necessity! You need people that love you and have your best interest at heart. They can help you make good sound decisions. Another good simple suggestions is during this grieving period is to drink plenty of water a day and eat less fatty foods. Try to eat healthier foods such as fruits, vegetables, chicken, fish (not fried), and turkey. Also try and get plenty of exercise. Something as simple as walking can help relieve stress, give you energy and clear your mind. Remember, the enemy's goal is to make you feel hopeless and without purpose.

But God wants you to live your best life!

Here are a few scriptures that helped sustain me during my season of grief.

HEBREWS 13:5

God said; I will never leave you or forsaken you, nor give you up nor leave you without support. Nor will I in any degree leave you helpless! 

Hebrews 13:6

So, I can take comfort and boldly say: 

The Lord is my Helper in time of need, I will not be afraid!

Psalms 68:5

God is a Father of the Fatherless and a Judge and Protector to the widow!

Proverbs 15:25

The Lord will destroy the house of the proud, But He will Establish/Protect the boundary/Property of the widow

Psalms 146:9b

He cares for the orphans and widows, but He frustrates the plans of the wicked.

Isaiah 1:17

Fight for the rights of widows!

Zechariah 7:10a

Do not oppress widows and orphans

Isaiah 54:4 - 6

Fear not; you will no longer live in shame. 

Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you.

You will no longer remember the shame of your youth and the sorrows of widowhood

For your creator will be your husband; the Lord of Heaven’s Armies is His name.

He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.

For the Lord has called you back from your grief!

I’ll be sharing more next month

Rise Up and Live your Best Life!